Identifying As A Writer

I’ve recently joined a writing group that is going through the book  On Being a Writer: Twelve Simple Habits for a Writing Life That Lasts by Kroeker and Craig.
The first chapter and point of discussion for the group is whether or not you identify yourself as a writer.  For some this is much harder than others although the common theme seems to be that it has taken most of the group a while to be comfortable calling themselves a writer.

I started writing in elementary school like many others.  One of my favorite things to do was the creative writing assignments our teachers would give us.  I loved to write and create stories, probably because I loved to read so much.  Sometimes it was only a short paragraph, other times it could be a couple of pages of hand-written script.  For the rest of  my short school years, I continued to write mostly as assigned work.  I was a person who actually liked the essay questions on tests because this came easy for me.

Fast forward a few years and as a young mother, I started writing an annual Christmas letter, trying to make it as entertaining and humorous as possible since I didn’t want it to be the usual brag and gag letter that we sometimes received.  I also started journaling as a release for my feelings and emotions that I couldn’t tell anyone else.  When I’d get upset or frustrated, instead of yelling at someone, I would write.  I continued journaling for years.  Now that I’ve finally found a little extra time after having my kids grown and having quit my job, I can indulge my dream of writing.  So I blog.
Do I call myself a writer?  No, I haven’t yet.  At first it was hard to even tell anyone I’d started a blog.  I told my biggest supporter and fan, first.  My husband.  He truly is very supportive of me and insists I tell him as soon as I’ve written another post.  He has been very complimentary and cheers me on.  Having gained a bit of confidence from his reaction, I told a close friend.  Not long after that, I had written maybe 5 blog posts and had a few followers and a few positive comments from them and I decided to take the plunge and post about it on Facebook, sharing the link to my blog.  The reaction was much better than I’d hoped for.  I gained quite a few followers and several very positive comments which have helped me continue.
So I do tell people I write a blog.  I haven’t even called myself a blogger, let alone a writer yet.  I guess I think of a writer as someone who has had something published.  But after reading the descriptions put forth in the book and discussion among group, I can see it is much more than that.
It’s not just writing though that I lack confidence in.  I have other hobbies I spend time on and find myself downplaying those as well.  I knit, crochet, cross stitch, and make my own greeting cards and I find myself  discounting compliments and pointing out mistakes.  Why do I do this?  Am I afraid of being judged?

A comment I read this morning talked about not worrying about what others say as most of the comments will be coming from people who don’t themselves, write.  It made sense to me.  Most writers wouldn’t criticize other writers.  We are a family and recognize other people have different strengths and weaknesses and there isn’t just one right way to do this.
So for now I’ll continue to enjoy writing my blog, enjoy this group even though it was scary for me to join a “writer’s group”, and look for other ways to use my love for writing.

Psst – My secret dream has always been to write a book.  You’ll be the first to know, right after my husband of course.  And in the meantime I’ll practice saying into the mirror, “I am a writer. I, am a writer.  I AM a writer.  I am a WRITER.”

Advertisements

12 thoughts on “Identifying As A Writer

  1. I identify a lot with your post. I have a stack of journals too- writing has always been a way to help me process things- and I’m also fairly new to blogging and not at the point of calling myself a writer yet. I’m enjoying this book and online discussion though as a way to explore that more. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. You are SO a writer! Love this. We have a lot in common so I am excited to be following you. One of my favorite books in the world is by Brenda Ueland called “If You Want to Write”. She was born in 1891 and wrote this book in the 30’s but her words reach me every time I flee to the book for some Brenda love. I would have like to have known her. Thank you for your writing my writer friend!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Oh my new neighbor!! lol
      Thanks for reading and the follow. I promise I won’t stalk you. And now, I need to run or I’ll be late for a lunch with the hubster. And that would not be good. No. No. Not at all. lol

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Ha! I am retired. I should have time to do so much more than I get done but I am content. 🙂 Working part time I could have done quite a bit too, but it sucked the creative life right out of me and left me exhausted so that all I got done was to nap or day dream about napping.

      Like

  3. Oh my goodness…I identified so much with your post! Growing up, creative writing classes and English classes etc were my favorite too. And I also have always wanted to write a children’s book.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s